Monday, January 11, 2016

"This is a MAN'S world".....or is it?

I hear so much talk about how women are too independent, and how men want a woman who yes is independent, but soft.  I’m hearing society has made women hard, and therefore men don’t want a woman that is hard and doesn’t need a man in this day and age.

Well answer me this?  What has society taught men in this day and age about women? I think men don’t know what the fuck they want!  If you’re too independent he fears she will be dominant, and he cant control the household. He can’t have that, BUT yet he doesn’t want a woman who is dependent either.  WHAT THE FUCK do you want?  If you are dependent, he thinks you are lazy and uneducated, and you only want his money.

You want us to have a career, clean the house, take care of the kids, be educated, pretty, and fit, BUT you want us to submit to your needs upon demand.  You DON’T want us to be unemployed, home bodies, uneducated, fat or unattractive because then you think we’re useless. What THE FUCK do you want? 

We live in the 21st century.  Women today will not be the women of the 60’s 70’s or even 80’s…and guess what?  As we continue to move into different decades and millenniums, it’s only going to magnify? 

I recently read an article that stated “If a woman is too smart, a man sees you as either boring or a threat if he is not on your level”.  If you make more money than he does, or have a higher credit score, or you have a Masters and he only has a Bachelors, he feels threatened, but WHY?????  Why is a strong, educated woman a threat or shunned?  Why is SHE single?

Women have been taught to take care of themselves by their elders or women before them.  You know why (or what could partly be a reason why?)?  Because women of yester year who were not educated, who were housewives, may have been abused both mentally and physically, and for the most part had nowhere to go, so they had to rely on their husbands for their livelihood.  So “those” women taught their daughters, and those daughters, taught their daughters to be strong, to be smart, to always have your own, so you won’t have to endure such abuse.  To never stay somewhere and be abused just because you don’t have your shit together.  Wouldn’t a man teach his daughter this same lesson?  Wouldn’t a man encourage his daughter to be the absolute best she can be?  To never have to settle?  So again, tell me in THIS day and age what a man is looking for in a woman?

Where is the balance?  What the FUCK do you want?  Men be verbal, be expressive, be communicative, tell women what men want because what I hear is so fucking contradictory it’s ridiculous!

I’m listening….seriously listening.

6 comments:

Unknown said...

Very interesting blog. I would be interested to read what the men have to say in response.

Anonymous said...

I agree with you and only ask that you address those above as MALES not men. Men don't act in this fashion. Men want women that are supportive, intelligent, empathetic, soft, inspiring emotionally secure and understanding. If you find yourself in the presence of a male parading as a man flee from him ASAP

Anonymous said...

The thing is, it takes a real man to know what he wants and how to appreciate a woman. I think in today's world, women are coming to the table with more and it should be rewarded. All a real man wants is a woman that will support his dreams as he does hers and compliment each other. If you find that, then you have something, regardless of degrees, social status or income. What ever happened to "let's hold each other down". The real men are out there, problem is they are being pushed to the back by the experiences women have had in the past so the walls are instantly up. It's gotta be a done together, with the same purpose.....

Anonymous said...

Very interesting Blog,
I feel that there are a lot of men who don't know what they want , maybe they havent found themselves as of yet....But I think there are quite a few men who know what they want in a women they know themselves and have there *#% together...The game has changed a lot in the last 20-25 years, women have become more self sufficient , more educated,more into there health physically and mentally, MEN need to respect and embrace these women.... Never trust a big butt and a smile ...
Keep doing your thing Denise !

Moni said...

Love this blog post. Interesting views for the anonymous men. :) Kepp writing and keep asking! Xo

Unknown said...

I agree with you Denise, and sometimes a man has to find himself to know what he really wants in a woman and wants in love. It took me some time to get this right. I want my woman my wife to be who she is no matter what I think or feel and that's why I love . Strong and independent, money or not if a man knows this about you he has to be able to handle and deal with a strong independent woman.